Stay Single until you meet “THIS PERSON”

I am someone who had been single for a very long time. How long? Well..for the past 21 years and 12 days to be precise :P It's not that I didn’t have any guy to talk with. In fact, people who know me would tell you that I have more guy friends than girls. Even then, I wasn’t able to find the right guy for myself coz I was very particular about certain things. All the dozens of options at my fingertips seemed to be a little less important coz I've always wanted to save it all up for the right person. I have been called "asexual" for being single all my life. My friends have teased me because I was the only one in the group who didn't have a boyfriend. I have been the 3rd, 4th, or 6th wheel while hanging out with friends. I have always been a part of the ‘No boyfriend since birth’ Club. But to be honest, I've always enjoyed being that way. Coz let me tell you, there are hundreds of ways to enjoy your single life before you find the right one.

You really don’t have to rush into any relationship although you’ll have to come across various struggles that you have to endure from your mean friends, stupid guys, annoying relatives and even the world in general. You don’t have to settle for just any guy. You don’t have to be in a relationship just because you think it’s the cool thing to do these days. You don’t have to be pressured by the fact your friends rub their relationships in your face. You don’t have to be pressured by all the social media posts of couples on your Instagram and Facebook feeds. You don’t have to lower your standards for love just so you can get out of being single.

To all the girls out there, WAIT UNTIL YOU FIND THE RIGHT ONE. Trust me, the process is going to be worth the wait when that time comes(personal experience :P). When you find “THE RIGHT ONE” you’ll know why god has been keeping you away from all the wrong ones. Stay single until you find the guy with the following qualities.

Stay single until you meet the man who changes the standard you once had and suddenly no one can compare. The man who says, “text me when you’re home safe,” and stays up until he knows you are. The man who doesn’t have time for games and is brutally honest with you always. The man who doesn’t make you feel insecure about anything. The man who knows when to apologize when he’s wrong. The man who joins you for lunch coz your only lunch partner at office has taken an off. The man who would drive for hours just to see your face for a few minutes coz regardless of how crazy it may seem to you, it makes sense to him. The man who sends sweet texts in the middle of the meeting he knows you’re stressing over.

Stay single until you meet a man who makes sure you walk on the inside of the sidewalk away from the street. A man who opens every door you walk through. The man who holds your hand shamelessly in public. A man you’d proudly introduce to your father. A man whose heart has been broken several times and it only makes you think that every girl who's ever been a part of his life are LOSERS for not choosing him and at the same time, it makes you want to thank them for the same reason :P The man you cannot live without.  The man who doesn’t make you fear the future. The man you want to create a life with. The man who makes you feel more beautiful just standing beside him. 

Stay single until you find the man who makes you want to be a better woman. The man who is sure of you and never makes you doubt how he feels. The man who motivates you to achieve more and be better. The man who thinks you are the most beautiful girl in the entire world when you are not even trying. A man who makes you enjoy all the cliché stuffs that you might have made fun of your friends for but you get it now. The one who knows that you are sometimes a little all over the place, but has open arms for you to come back to reality.

Stay single until you meet someone who doesn’t view your assertive nature as arrogant or rigid, but as interesting and respectable. The man who doesn’t make dating feel like an obligation, but something you genuinely want to explore. The man you want to spend Sunday mornings with. The man whose kiss makes you want more. The man who makes you want to take it slow in a generation that tells us to rush into the things. The man who takes the relationship as seriously as you do. The man that makes chasing after him not sound so bad after all.

The man you look at and think, “FINALLY.”

Until then. Stay single.

-  A girl who has remained single for 7683 days! :P

Arjun Reddy - A CULT in Tollywood films!

If you want to know how it feels to be in true, passionate, amorous, intense, pure, insane love, watch ARJUN REDDY. Only people who have experienced this kind of love can relate to this film. A love that makes the blood surge in your veins. The mutual thirst, the insanity, the desperation, wildness, the longingness, the intensity, and every single emotion portrayed is beyond beautiful. It is raw. It is real. It is flawed. And there lies the beauty. I could relate to every single scene. Every single shot. Every single frame. And the film made me roll in the loins as I cried and smiled with Arjun and Preethi. And this is because, the film is not a mere presentation of a script, rather it is a life – put up on big screen. There never was a movie as real as this.

There never will be any movie like this.

I still couldn’t hold back my tears while I type this. Yes I am still gonna cry every time I see the film. Coz IT IS THE BEST LOVE FILM EVER MADE. When I say LOVE, it’s not the kisses or the love making scenes that I am mentioning here, NO. It’s the way Arjun talks to her, the way he looks at her, the way he takes care of her, the way he hugs her like she’s the only woman in the world, the way his voice becomes low and bass-y when he talks to her, the way he kisses her passionately, the way they are desperate for each other. Sigh!! Remember a scene where they meet with an accident? They get up as soon as they fall from the bike, they run towards each other with wounds, bruises, blood all over their faces... And.. They kiss. They start kissing even before asking each other if they’re alright! Coz nothing really matters to them. Nothing really matters other than each other's presence. That is what they are. That is how they are.

Isn’t Arjun a perfect guy? I am really surprised that people who watched the film call him a flawed person. NO. He is not. He is perfect in EVERY way. The way he tells Preethi to talk to her father “like a woman and not like a teenager”. The way he tries to explain his dad about ‘Private Space’. The way he says “adhi naa pilla ra” (She is my girl) with that intense amount of love and pain in his eyes, OH MY GOD. The way he says “Naaka pilla ante chaala ishtam raa” (I love that girl so much) to Amith leaving all his ego behind. They way he explains about girls’ PMS issue and shares their pain. The way he says, “I like the way you breathe” to her. The way he explains his brother how babies should happen out of love without planning. The way he loses his temper to a random guy when he starts to objectify Air hostesses. The way he becomes arrogant when a lady says “I love you” to him coz he just CANNOT hear it from any other girl other than Preethi. The way he provides emotional support to his father after the demise of grandmother. Aren’t these just a few classic examples that show us Arjun is beyond perfection in his thoughts?

Thank you Sandeep Reddy Vanga for this. THANK YOU.

I love myself. Because, why not?

I am having a tough day. Therefore, I thought I should write a lengthy list of reasons why I am worth it. Why I matter. Why I am unique and oh-so-irreplaceable. So that in times of struggle, I can whip it out and remind myself just how amazing I really am. I am proud of everything that I am and I will become. I wanted to give myself all of the love I often times forget to give. That is why I sought out this moment alone with myself, to say everything I’ve never said. Because, why not? Self-love is very important, because, as Martin Luther King, Jr. said, "Hate is too great of a burden to bear."

I love myself. I repeat, I love myself, not everything, but I love the good as well as the bad. I love my awkwardness, my quirky habits and my crazy lifestyle, and I love my hard discipline. I love my freedom of speech and the way my eyes turn dark when I become sleepy or tired. I love that I have learnt to trust people with my heart, knowing that it will get broken at some point. The way I have to have my bedroom mirror facing a certain way. Or like to drink a hot glass of chai after eating a spicy breakfast. Or have my pens on my office desk lined up just so. My quirks are adorable and oh-so-loveable!

I love my vulnerability. From the moment that I stood on stage alone with a microphone, to the time I cried in front of my Maths teacher, to the tenderness I express with my loved ones – I am vulnerable. And vulnerability is my strength. I love the fact that I’m vulnerable when it comes to love. Because vulnerability is the essence of love. It’s the art of being contingent, the willingness to look foolish, the courage to say, I love you enough to show you my flaws with the hope that you may embrace me for all that I am, but, more important, all that I am not.

I love the way I love passionately, intensely, irrationally, crazily, psychotically. I love the way I dance, the way I take a deep breath as soon as I step onto the stage. I love the way I sing although I know I suck at it sometimes. I love myself coz I do not drown myself in lipsticks or cover myself with makeup all the time. I love my beautiful body shape that is utterly and uniquely me. Curves, bumps, humps and all – hot damn! I love myself because I am still alive, functioning, breathing and thinking properly.  

I love myself for the decisions I take. My choices. I make them every single day, lots of them. And they’ve got me to where I am right now. I love myself because I’m multi-faceted. Hyper one minute. Unenthusiastic the next. I love how my emotional detachedness makes it easy for me to deal with negativity and hatred. I love my emotions. I love the joy, guilt, sadness, fear. I love all of the emotions I experience, because I know that each one of them is showing me something in order to keep getting to know and work on myself and experience life.

I love myself. And not just myself, but all of my dreams, illusions, hopes and challenges. I’m aware that they all form a part of who am I. My successes and my failures. I love myself because I have dreams, endless, beautiful dreams. And I haven’t stopped believing in them (even if it sometimes feels like I have). I love the fact that I am still a kiddo at heart. Yep, I still love jumping on a trampoline, love making sand houses at beach, love playing with 3-year-old kids. My inner kiddo is still alive and kickin’. And she totally rocks!

I love my ability to be carried away. In a movie theatre, in a dream, in life – I allow myself to be carried away by the fantasy. And I love the fact that I don’t settle. I seek until I find what I am looking for. I love the nature. The moon, the ocean, the trees, the mountains, the rain, the desert. I don’t discriminate and I love myself for that.  I love myself, in the most sincere and real way there is, unconditionally. And that’s why I take care of, forgive and allow myself to enjoy my life. I love the way I love. I give love. I feel love. I spread love. I breathe love. I = love. No one is me and that is my super power.

I love myself coz I created this entire blog without having to stop and think.

I love myself, and by doing so I can love you, him, and everyone else.

I'm not the kind of love....

Dear Love,

I’m not the kind of love that takes the only sweater when it’s extremely cold outside, only to see you shivering because you think that’s chivalry. But love, no, I wouldn’t accept the sweater, rather I’ll give it to you or keep it inside as we walk along until we reach our destination. 

I’m not the kind of love that would ask for all the things I know you couldn’t give. I'd accept all things you give willingly and would accept even if you have nothing to give me. I will not expect anything more than what you are capable to give.

I’m not the kind of love that takes the only seat left on the bus, only to see you standing because you think that’s what men are supposed to do. But love, no, i’d stand with you as we travel along terrible roads. I want both of our feet hurt, not only yours, but also mine.

I’m not the kind of love that restricts you from doing what you love. Baby, go on and dance. Watch the newly released Game of Thrones episode. Enjoy your sleep. Go out with your friends for dinner. Eat well. Have as much fun as possible. Coz love, I know your priorities—I love you but I do not own you. 

I'm not the kind of love that dictates you to do this or to do that. I respect your privacy and freedom to choose things you want to do. I believe in you, love. I believe that you are bound to do greater things that’s why I will always let you do the things that you want to do. I want you to become a better person with every passing day and I know you wouldn’t do anything that could make you a horrible person.

I’m not the kind of love that messages you constantly even when I know you are busy—I am the love that is patient, knowing and trusting that you have all your loyalty with me.

I’m not the kind of love that always thinks you will do something bad. Crazy accusations and assumptions are not my thing. If you know you’re doing things wrongly, then it’s up to your conscience to admit it with me or not. I love you fully and that means I will trust you with all my heart and stand beside you even when the whole world turns against you. Coz baby, you are my world. I don’t care how cliché it sounds. 

I’m not the kind of love that takes you away from all the pain that you experience in life by convincing you that things will fall in the right place, but love, I promise I will be there along the way and make sure everything actually falls in place. I will hold your hand as we make it through the battle. With me, you will never be alone. I promise.

I’m not the kind of love that just says that I don’t care about your past. But love, I will mend you whole as the loser you loved before broke it, and will love you the way you deserved to be loved and will stay by your side no matter how moody you can be.

Love, we don’t know what our destiny has in store for us, it may or may not be me someday, but I wish you all the best. Even if that best will never be me. 

With love,

A simple girl who loves with all her heart and soul :)